In the Social Media world you know when you just 'click' with someone. Brenda Perlin is that kind of person. So, when I had an opportunity to be part of her blog hob to celebrate the re-release of her book - I jumped at it....
At what age were you the happiest? What triggered such joy?
I would have to say the age I am now. Even though I have had so much to be happy about in the previous years and my life was oh so easier in many ways but now that I have found “real” love I wouldn’t want to go back. Also, what I am doing today is making me so happy. I love writing and meeting different writers. I think it is the first time I can really say that I am truly happy and content.
What is the number one lie you tell yourself? How is that working out?
I can’t even think of an answer for that. I think I have come pretty clean with how I am. I have admitted mistakes and there have been many. I try to be as real to myself as possible. Sometimes I can be hard on myself and those inner voices can be a bit rough but I don’t necessarily look at that as lying, just critical which I am definitely guilty of. Those negative thoughts do not help me in the least bit but I am trying to make peace within myself. It is an ongoing battle.
When was the last time you felt alive? I mean really alive!
I don’t want to make you all gag but I would have to say when I met my boyfriend. Something inside me just woke up. It was exhilarating and that feeling continues. When we met, we were both in unhappy marriages and just going through the motions. We had an instant connection and it was then when I felt like I woke up from a bad dream.
When was the last time you helped someone that was desperately in need? What did you do? Was this person grateful?
Several years back I became computer pals with a guy named Abhijit from India. I met him from a Transverse Myelitis support group of which I got involved with after I was diagnosed in 2007. It is a rare auto-immune disease. From the start Abhijit and I became good friends. We wrote to each other almost every day and talked on Skype. I felt so bad for him because not only had he gone through such a debilitating disease but he was in India without much money or good health care. As bad as my problems were, his were far worse. I took him under my wing and he has always been appreciative. His gratitude is showed just by being my friend.
What is the one thing, good or bad, you wish you could have said to a former boyfriend/girlfriend? Why didn’t you? Don’t worry he/she probably won’t read this.
Gosh, that is hard to answer. I wish I could have reciprocated my feelings for a guy named Gerard (I named one of the characters in my book Home Wrecker after him) that I used to work with at a restaurant. He seemed like he was in love but I couldn’t return those feelings. Much of it was bad timing. Still, I wish I could tell him what a great guy he was and how good it made me feel to know how much he cared.
What is the worst advice you have ever given someone?
I will have to get back to you on that one.
Who is your favorite author, and how did they inspire you to write?
I feel repetitive always talking about Pat Conroy but he is the one!!! His words are like poetry and music to my ears. He just has a rare gift. I love that he writes with such honesty and feeling. His writing really moves me like no other.
I live in Orange County, California. I have spent most of my working life in the physical fitness arena. I love the gratification that comes with helping people achieve their fitness goals and I love the fulfillment that comes with having a healthy body. I moved from the Los Angeles area where I was raised to Orange County in the Spring of 2005. During that time I was a housewife with a couple of dogs. Now I am not. Instead I am writing my adventures for all to read.
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Brenda's book has had some great reviews there is even one here under the Through Lisa'a Eyes page.
Thank you all for stopping by.