In the Social Media world you know when you just 'click' with someone. Brenda Perlin is that kind of person. So, when I had an opportunity to be part of her blog hob to celebrate the re-release of her book - I jumped at it....
At what age were you the happiest? What triggered such joy?
I would have to say the age I am now. Even though I have had so much to be happy about in the previous years and my life was oh so easier in many ways but now that I have found “real” love I wouldn’t want to go back. Also, what I am doing today is making me so happy. I love writing and meeting different writers. I think it is the first time I can really say that I am truly happy and content.
What is the number one lie you tell yourself? How is that working out?
I can’t even think of an answer for that. I think I have come pretty clean with how I am. I have admitted mistakes and there have been many. I try to be as real to myself as possible. Sometimes I can be hard on myself and those inner voices can be a bit rough but I don’t necessarily look at that as lying, just critical which I am definitely guilty of. Those negative thoughts do not help me in the least bit but I am trying to make peace within myself. It is an ongoing battle.
When was the last time you felt alive? I mean really alive!
I don’t want to make you all gag but I would have to say when I met my boyfriend. Something inside me just woke up. It was exhilarating and that feeling continues. When we met, we were both in unhappy marriages and just going through the motions. We had an instant connection and it was then when I felt like I woke up from a bad dream.
When was the last time you helped someone that was desperately in need? What did you do? Was this person grateful?
Several years back I became computer pals with a guy named Abhijit from India. I met him from a Transverse Myelitis support group of which I got involved with after I was diagnosed in 2007. It is a rare auto-immune disease. From the start Abhijit and I became good friends. We wrote to each other almost every day and talked on Skype. I felt so bad for him because not only had he gone through such a debilitating disease but he was in India without much money or good health care. As bad as my problems were, his were far worse. I took him under my wing and he has always been appreciative. His gratitude is showed just by being my friend.
What is the one thing, good or bad, you wish you could have said to a former boyfriend/girlfriend? Why didn’t you? Don’t worry he/she probably won’t read this.
Gosh, that is hard to answer. I wish I could have reciprocated my feelings for a guy named Gerard (I named one of the characters in my book Home Wrecker after him) that I used to work with at a restaurant. He seemed like he was in love but I couldn’t return those feelings. Much of it was bad timing. Still, I wish I could tell him what a great guy he was and how good it made me feel to know how much he cared.
What is the worst advice you have ever given someone?
I will have to get back to you on that one.
Who is your favorite author, and how did they inspire you to write?
I feel repetitive always talking about Pat Conroy but he is the one!!! His words are like poetry and music to my ears. He just has a rare gift. I love that he writes with such honesty and feeling. His writing really moves me like no other.
I live in Orange County, California. I have spent most of my working life in the physical fitness arena. I love the gratification that comes with helping people achieve their fitness goals and I love the fulfillment that comes with having a healthy body. I moved from the Los Angeles area where I was raised to Orange County in the Spring of 2005. During that time I was a housewife with a couple of dogs. Now I am not. Instead I am writing my adventures for all to read.
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Thank you all for stopping by.
Some days a just days you seem to have to be sappy. For me, this is one of those days. I rather not say why. However, I think more people refuse to admit they have sappy days, than those who will fess up to them.
I just read this: in a Huffington Post* post.
Justice Oliver Wendell Holmes. He said, "Too many people die with their music still in them."
I pondered why that statement is true.
Is it because we think no one will like, Our sounds? Our opinions? Our words?
Which made me wonder. What kind of music is the most poplar? If you made that kind of music it would reason more people would like it, hence like you, right?
Since, there are so many different kinds of ways to express ourselves what’s the problem?
The answer: rejection? Maybe. Maybe not.
One dictionary describes the word– Stifle:
>check or repress something: to curb, repress, or prevent the development of something <
This is something that can be done to us. Or something we can do to ourselves.
Here’s an example:
For me, this is one of those days.
I really wanted to write this sentence this way:
This day for me is one of those days.
Why because being dyslectic that’s how my brain says to do it. But, if I did that I would be barraged by the grammar gurus. And that would be interrupted by me as rejection. No one likes or wants to feel rejected.
Which leaves only two choices. We can never put ourselves out there to be rejected.
The other is the stifle ourselves to conform, so not to suffer the anguish of rejection. If we do that, then I ask you.
Whose music, opinions or words are you using: Cause, Honey, they ain’t yours.
"Too many people die with their music still in them." @
Pass the tissues, please.
Welcome...June 15 is Goodread’s All Author Blog Blitz which means blogs everywhere are sharing guest writers on their blog. Please welcome my guest blogger Kathryne Stelher.. A brand new writer.
My name is Kathryn Stelher. I live in the Seattle area, and I find it a perfect place to write. I have always been a fan of romance novels. I have read many, and have wanted to try my hand at writing for a long time. I feel it's time for me to move forward with my thoughts and aspirations, and get involved in the popular genre of romance novels. I am currently writing my first novel "Time Doesn't Wait". My hopes are to have it ready for editing by the end of the year.
It is an absolute joy to write with a romance theme, being that I have always enjoyed the likes of Nora Roberts, Sandra Brown, and Mary Jo Putney for years. I have learned a lot from my reading about styles, and the way characters are brought into the story. Each character in the story should have their own identity and personality of course, but they should also connect to the reader in their own way. I hope to create my own writing style, which I hope is unique and different.
Writing is fun for me, but I have learned that it takes determination, hard work, and the will to push your ideas and thoughts forward to entertain the readers who sit down to read your work. The end result should be an entertaining, effortless, and fun read!
“Time Doesn’t Wait”
Synopsis: ‘Rebecca, once happy in her marriage finds herself questioning her husband and their marriage and asks him the direct question about his true feelings for her. Their conversation and the things said lead to a downward spiral in their relationship, and leaves her feeling betrayed and all alone. As she picks up the pieces, she meets a to-good-to-be-true man—a handsome man who seems to understand her in every way. They become closer and more involved when an unforeseen twist threatens to throw her back into the downward emotional spiral she had worked so hard to get out of. Now she must make tough decisions. Will the decisions Rebecca makes be in her best interest, or will she give in to her kind heart and do what’s best for others around her?’
I think a lot of women will be able to relate to the things that Rebecca goes through and how emotional and draining love can be. I plan to have TDW out before the holidays and will decide on a book cover within the next month.
I want to thank Lisa for letting me post a little about my writing and my book.
To learn more about Kathryn go here